How to Reduce Anxiety When
Affirmations Don’t Work
by: Sarah Malik
Have you ever read that you should think positively when you are
Have you ever been told to argue back when you have negative
How’s that working for you?
Why do affirmations only sometimes produce results?
Because as we argue back to our negative and irrational
thoughts, we don’t always believe the new things we are telling
What we really believe is our original thoughts – the thoughts
that have led us to feel anxiety in the first place.
The other reason that affirmation sometimes produce limited
results is that we might not really believe that saying the
affirmations will create change in our lives.
So why do affirmations come so highly recommended?
How are these affirmations supposed to work?
If you can get yourself to begin to believe them, if you can
begin to see a kernel of truth in what you are saying, then
affirmations may help you to install new, more helpful beliefs.
That is the key to permanently and more positively changing how
we feel and react to the world around us.
There is a difference between what we really believe and all of
the infinite number of possible thoughts that we are capable of
thinking – which we may or may not believe.
It is the thoughts that we really believe that seem to possess
the power. Rather than the thoughts that are positive yet not
Our beliefs are the source of the actions we take. We act
ultimately based on what we believe to be true.
It is possible to use affirmations to bring a conscious effort
to alter our actions. But if we do not believe that this new
perspective or thought that we are affirming is going to be
effective, then we will revert back to what we really believe
beneath the self-imposed, positive thoughts.
If you can begin to agree with the thoughts and affirmations you
are feeding yourself, you will begin to act from them. And you will
indeed be in the process of changing your beliefs.
It can be done through affirmations. But what’s the key?
There has to be something in there that you believe, that you
can see as true in some way.
It probably won’t work if you see the affirmations as
The caveat for anxiety sufferers
For anxiety sufferers, however, the affirmation process may have
a limited and disappointing effect.
If we go into a social situation where we normally feeling
significant amounts of anxiety and try to affirm our way through
the experience, old beliefs may very easily strong arm our fragile,
new, positive thoughts. And create a nerve-wracking experience.
And, as a result of this nerve-wracking experience, affirmations
will look like a very ineffective tool.
It is in the deeper realm of our beliefs that the power for
having a permanently altered, more calm experience lies.
Go there and see a difference in your feelings of anxiety!